Be Content

How easy it is to become discontented. Life doesn’t go the way we expect. Dreams fade. People disappoint. We have things but no peace. We have less than we want and feel neglected. We grasp and grab, but end up empty-handed.

Content: state of satisfaction; peaceful happiness; satisfied; pleased; happy; cheerful; untroubled; unworried

The Apostle Paul wrote that he learned “how to be” in whatever state he was found. He learned to be content. What a marvelous thought to know how to be full and hungry; how to have plenty and suffer need.

Philippians 4:11 Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content.

I love how Paul stated he learned this. We are not innately wired to do this, but a series of lessons and application bring about this learning.

Food & Clothes

I’ve pondered about contentment. Just like you, I’ve felt discontented about many things in this life. But I keep going back to what 1 Timothy 6:8 says.

And having food and raiment let us be therewith content.

Do you have food? Do you have clothes? Be content. You may not have all of your desires, but if your basic needs are met, be content. God will never leave me nor forsake me—these are things I tell myself.

Jesus told us to not be troubled, cast our cares on Him, be of good cheer and to be anxious or worried for nothing. What was He saying? Be content. Even when it looks like you or I have nothing, we have everything. We have Jesus.

Hugs & Love!

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10 Tips to Deal With Anxiety

You’ve heard it before. Worry doesn’t solve problems; it only creates more. Anxiety compromises health and wellness. It is known to negatively affect blood pressure and glucose levels, as well as increase the heart rate. Prolonged anxiety affects concentration, digestion, and can lead to depression. If you are sick, anxiety can delay healing and recovery.

Philippians 4:6 Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.

To “be careful for nothing” means to not worry. God doesn’t want us to be full of  worry and anxiety. They gnaw away at our faith.

10 Tips to Deal with Anxiety

1. Recognize your limits. Some things are outside of your control. Let go of what you can’t control. You’ll feel better when you do.
2. Accept each day as it comes You can’t know how every story or situation ends.
3. Find healthy ways to deal with people and circumstances that make you anxious.  Exercise, journal, craft, sharpen your skills, Polyvore 😉 etc.
4. Be patient with yourself and others High levels of anxiety correlates with impatience. It’s okay to slow down.
5. Forgive yourself and others. It’s easier said than done, but when you forgive, there are no more reasons to fret about what has come and gone.
6. Eat healthy foods. It’s a catch twenty-two. When we’re anxious, we tend to eat unhealthy foods, which can produce negative effects. This may make us even more anxious. Yikes!! TRY to eat healthy foods to keep yourself off the anxiety wheel. Don’t forget to drink water!
7. Talk it out. Many times all we need is a good listener in our corner. We are usually able to talk ourselves to a solution or encourage ourselves in a conversation.
8. Love a pet (or person). Petting and snuggling with a furry friend can help alleviate anxiety. For the allergy sufferers and those without pets, cute animal pics are in abundance online. Spend time with a person who brings a sense of calm in your life.
9. Laugh. A meme anyone? Cute and funny baby or animal pics? A funny show? Get to laughing! It’s great for the heart and reduces anxiety.
10. Last, but not least: Pray, meditate, and read God’s Word (and inspiring stories). — Simply put, it’s good for the soul.

Still Waters: 10 Tips to Deal with Anxiety

The Serene Scene

Many people seem to be on a quest to find peace.  School and work leave us exhausted and over-extended. Family life feels upside down. Friendships go shipwrecked. We look for “me time”— precious moments when you can just get away from it all. Bubble bath and a tropical beach optional, but totally recommended.

If we manage to find little moments during the day to escape, invisible militiamen soon find us and wage a mental war of worries and stress. Anxiety-riddled thoughts pop up in our minds like jack-in-the-box. Heart rate is erratic. Chest feels heavy. Tension is your norm. And that daily headache? It’s your new best-friend. All of this comes with a price: our health. Spiritually. Mentally. Emotionally. Physically.

Balance

What are we really looking for? Peace. Harmony between every area of our lives. Balance in the form of contentment. We really don’t want to be pulled in a million different directions. That’s for Elastigirl. Multitasking isn’t all corporate America  has seduced us into believing. We mess up or forget what we were working on to begin with.

You’re not the Miss-Fix-It people made you out to be. You can’t even fix yourself. That’s a job for Jesus.

What should you do? Believe God. Fear and doubt are the reasons for the absence of peace. God made the world. Surely He can take care of you.

Jesus Christ is the Prince of Peace—true serenity. He is the balance you seek in your life.

Instead of letting life revolve around that job, that class, that man, that friend; why not let life revolve around the One who created all life—yours included?

Stayed on You

We don’t keep our minds stayed on Jesus, therefore we are not being kept in perfect peace. That promise, like many in the bible, comes with a condition. Instead, we keep our mind on her business, his business, that worry, doubt, lie and ego. And we wonder why we can’t sleep at night. Why we cannot stop to smell and enjoy the roses. Why we feel like we are just existing.

Matthew 6:33 But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.

Our lives are chaotic, and family life is trash because we are not seeking FIRST the Kingdom of God and His righteousness. We are seeking it last. After mister walks out, when the paychecks stop coming, when the eviction notice shows up, when the car breaks down, when beauty fades. When money—your god—lets you down. Then we seek the true and living God, Jesus Christ. Last. And half-heartedly, at best.

Priority Check

Where is God on your love list? Is He first? Does He have all of you, even your mind? Or are those worries the god of your thoughts?

John 14:27 Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.
Meditate on this. God will help us prioritize our lives and introduce us to the serene scene once we make Him our priority. This doesn’t mean you’re going to be rich, famous or trouble-free.

It means when trouble comes, you can endure with peace because you know trouble doesn’t last, but God’s Word does. You’ll know you are truly safe in the Master’s arms, no matter what happens in the world.

Real peace is not found in circumstances, location, things or man, but in the blood of the risen Savior, Christ our Lord.

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For Good to Them that Love God

We may not understand why certain things happen in our lives. But if we are Christ’s and love him, rest assured everything is working out for your good. Yes, even the hurt and brokenness has a purpose in God’s plan for you. If you give God time, you’ll see.

Conditional Good

Romans 8:28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.

Many times we say things like, “All things work together for good, girl!” Which the other replies, “I know that’s right!”

That’s it. We stop right there as if the verse has a period behind the word good. We fail to recognize and accept that this “work together for good” is conditional. Certain requirements must be met to receive  this benefit of God.

We must:

  1. Love God
  2. Be THE called according to His purpose

Loving God requires obedience, for it was Jesus who said, “If you love me, keep my commandments” (John 14:15).

Do women (and men) call themselves everyday to fulfill a purpose that is not godly or of God, but for themselves? Yes! However, we should want to make sure we are called according to His purpose, and not after man, the flesh or the traditions of men. The Bible tells us to make our calling and election sure. Know where you stand in God.

2 Peter 2:10 Wherefore the rather, brethren, give diligence to make your calling and election sure: for if ye do these things, ye shall never fall:

Hide it in Your Heart

“For the Good of Them” by Milton Brunson was ringing in my spirit this morning. I know God is encouraging me, and I want to pass that encouragement along. I want to remind someone that although you may feel weary right now or like you can’t see your way out, God is working things out for Y-O-U-R good— because you love Him and are THE called according to His purpose.

Remember who you are and Whose you are. Endure.

I hope you will also listen to the words of this song and let God give you courage to continue in Him…in patience and hope.

Sample Lyrics of For the Good of Them
The race is not given to the swift, nor to the strong, but to the one that endureth until the end. There’ll be problems. And sometimes you’ll have to walk alone. But I know, that I know, that I know…things will work out, yes they will. For the good of them who love the Lord. Eyes haven’t seen. And neither have ears heard the things God has prepared for them that love Him. Sometimes you may have to cry. Sometimes you may have to moan. But I know, that I know, that I know, that I know, that I know, that I know…things will work out, yes they will. For the good of them who love the Lord. No matter what the problem you can’t solve it. They will come, but don’t you worry (I’m a living witness that) it will work out for the good of them who love the Lord.

 

Windows of Escape

Opportunities don’t always appear as doors. Sometimes they show up as windows of escape. Sometimes the opportunity is a choice to say goodbye. To leave some situation, place or person in order to grab hold of what God has waiting for you. For better. For more joy. For peace. For salvation.

We ladies have been especially conditioned to look for and react to things that glitter. The glamourfied, if you will; even when it comes to opportunities or a way out. But all that glitters is not gold. And what you think of as simple, plain or insufficient may be the best thing for you (or me).

You never know who God may use to help you recognize and go through a window of escape. Sometimes we need someone to let down the cord (rope) or basket for us, as we find ourselves on ground level, only to take off and fly towards The Waymaker.

Joshua 2:15 Then she let them down by a cord through the window: for her house was upon the town wall, and she dwelt upon the wall.

When you see one—a window of escape—go through it, and allow God to meet you on the other side. The window may not be lined with flowers or open up to the ocean, but it gets you out of the mess, hurt, confusion or whatever you are in; and into the arms of the One who can redeem you. Go through the window of escape with faith. The Apostle Paul did. In a basket!

2 Corinthians 11:33 And through a window in a basket was I let down by the wall, and escaped his hands.

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Taming the “Dear Future Husband” Obsession

Ladies, can we reason together? This has been on my mind for a while. I’m trying to understand Christian ladies’ obsession with “Dear Future Husband” posts.

I’ve read, listened, watched and prayed. I fear that many of you are being taken captive by youthful lusts and do not recognize it.

Marriage between a single man and single woman is a beautiful God-honored relationship.  It’s okay to temperately desire to be married in God’s timing. But are you making “future husband” and marriage idols?

The only appropriate time to write a “Dear Future Husband” post is:

  1. To Jesus since the Church is His bride.
  2. If and only if you are presently engaged to be married. In this case your future husband is real; not a fantasy. Be careful with this also, as you do not want to stir up sexual lust.

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Under the Influence

Yes, many Western girls have been heavily influenced by unrealistic romantic movies and childhood fairy tales. So, it’s easy to blame Hollywood concerning this obsession with future husbands. But Hollywood isn’t the major problem with this issue. Christian women and girls who are influencing and encouraging one another to write love letters to a man on a wish list are to blame for this fantasy infatuation. Vain imagination.

When we are deceived, we go and deceive others. But we don’t have to be deceived. The “Dear Future Husband” posts are not a write the vision and make it plain ordeal. This is lust wearing cheap, imitation perfume. This does not smell good and sweet in the nostrils of our Savior. It stinks.

God’s Will?

Is it God’s will for you to be married? Maybe; maybe not. God knows. It is truth God calls some people to be single, like the Apostle Paul. Who knows if this will be the same for you?

Beloved, why not be about your Father’s business as you cultivate your faith, becoming rooted and grounded in His Word and love? Why not work on your character, sharpen skills and enjoy this present season in your life? The time it takes to craft these “Dear Future Husband” posts could have been given to something much more meaningful, such as prayer, reading the Word or helping someone.

Have Temperance

God never told you, me or anyone to obsess over a mate – current or future. This obsession easily creates idols in your heart and mind. Obsession is lack of control, and God wants us to have temperance. This is self-control. Patience is closely related to self-control.

2 Timothy 2:22 Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart.

The Word of God says to flee youthful lusts. Again, this is a mark of self-control. I say to you, these “Dear Future Husband” posts are propelling you towards youthful lusts, not away from them.

Heart Check

Why are you fixated on this? Do you believe the myth that you are incomplete without a spouse? Do you believe marriage is the ultimate dream?

“Dear Future Husband” posts are masks that poorly disguise the root of a deeper issue.

Matthew 6:21 For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.

It appears your treasure is found in a husband. As such, this is where your heart is.  Beloved, do you not want to store up treasures in heaven?

Revelation 2:4 Nevertheless I have somewhat against thee, because thou hast left thy first love.

This obsession is revealing a lot about your heart.  Beloved, do a heart check. Be honest with yourself as you reflect on why “Dear Future Husband” means so much to you. Repent and remember your first love, Jesus Christ.

Wonderfully Single

1 Corinthians 7:34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.

1 Corinthians 7:35 And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.

In a nutshell, Paul said that in your singlehood, you’re able to give more of yourself to the needs of Christ because you do not have the family-life obligations. This is comely, or beautiful, pleasing and acceptable.

2 Timothy 4:12 Let no man despise thy youth; but be thou an example of the believers, in word, in conversation, in charity, in spirit, in faith, in purity.

Many of you are proud to declare you are unashamed of your faith. This is good! But are you being an example or a stumbling block to another woman or girl in and outside the faith? Are you encouraging women and girls to spend their time thinking about a man? To write to a fantasy? Are your words and life examples of purity?

This “Dear Future Husband” obsession is a device of the enemy so that he can steal your focus and try to get you to become impatient waiting for God’s timing, if indeed marriage is in His will. You think you’re being pure in calling him “Future Husband” but all you are really doing is writing to an anonymous man.

God doesn’t need your help in sending the right man to find you. You don’t have to strategically place yourself somewhere hoping you’ll be seen. You don’t have to wear revealing clothing to grab attention. You don’t even have to ride on the “Dear Future Husband” bandwagon.

Enjoy not having certain distractions in place as you serve God! When and if God allows a man to find you, it is well. But until then, stop creating distractions for yourself with the “Dear Future Husband” obsession. Get your heart and mind fixated on Jesus Christ!

Be pure. Stay holy. Take off the blindfold and open your eyes.

Jump Off the Page!

You were born to stand out – to be different. In fact, God’s Word tells us to make a difference. In the literary world, we hear that a story or words jumped off the page. What does that mean? The words were highlighted in such a way as to immediately grab our attention and pull us into the story.

For something to jump off the page, it has to be distinct, richly creative and unique.

Here are a just a few ways God wants us to jump off the page for Him.

  1. Put God first and love Him with obedience by faith.
  2. Love others as ourselves.
  3. Cover a multitude of sins and faults with love. In other words, forgive.
  4. Put or make a difference between holy and unholy; clean and unclean with our lifestyle.
  5. Be a light to others.
  6. Consider others better than ourselves.
  7. Bear good fruits of righteousness.

Doing the above seven things will definitely set you apart from the world. You’ll literally jump off the page with your holy lifestyle. It’s sure to be a conversation starter. Where there’s a conversation, there’s opportunity to convince stray hearts to be reconciled to Christ.

Matthew 5:16 Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.

What are you waiting for, peculiar people? Jump off the page!

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Adorned for Christ

I believe fashion is one of the hardest areas for many Christian women to surrender to Christ. There’s so much that comes at us across media and in our personal circles. For those of us who grew up in the West, the culture of individualism is a hallmark of our identity, and we believe we sacrifice who we are if we cannot style ourselves outside of the Bible’s commands. And that is just too much sacrificing for some. But the Word of God instructs us to adorn ourselves in modest apparel.

Adorn: to enhance the appearance of; to enliven; to decorate; to make beautiful; beautify; deck

Heart Check

Are you dressing in a manner that is pleasing to Christ? The world socializes us from an early age that to be scantily clad (wear little to no clothing or be inadequately clothed ) makes us appealing. But if we use God’s perspective, we will see that He tells us that to dress with modesty makes us beautiful. His Word is truth.

Many of us see the truth. We just have trouble accepting the truth because it means we must sacrifice more of self.

God wants His daughters to dress with modesty. He wants us to be beautiful in His sight.

God is so wise. He not only tells us how we should be dressed outwardly, but also inwardly. He covers all the bases from the natural to the spiritual.

Surrender

For some women, fashion is a stronghold.

If Jesus asked some of us to empty our closets and change our style for His, and to follow Him, many of us would walk away sorrowful, just like the young rich ruler. His stronghold was money. He couldn’t let it go for Christ. What about you? Would you say you’ve spent too much money on the  immodest apparel you have? Would you say you’re too popular or known for your immodest style and can’t part with it?

So many of us will believe everything the Bible has to say until it steps on our toes and challenges us on that thing we don’t want to let go of. We’ll justify, rationalize and philosophize our way into being comfortable living in disobedience. That’s until we’re convicted again, and we do the whole justify, rationalize and philosophize dance until the flesh is pacified.

But God is saying surrender to Him. He really does want it all.

Have you surrendered your wardrobe to the One who wants to robe you in righteousness?

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Being Like Jesus

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New Year, New You: Be Transformed

Today is the Day

The new year marks a time when many of us consider transforming ourselves into something better. We want to grow, shed a few pounds, get whipped into shape, be more prosperous.

Often our “New Year’s Resolutions” involve a lot of the physical stuff —how we look and dress, and the possessions we have. We sprinkle some life altering and much needed bits from the self-help section on there, too. “I’ll be kinder or learn how to master my unruly tongue. I’ll make more time for me.”

Now there’s nothing wrong with looking our best or having nice things. But if that is all we seek after and what we want to be noticed for, then we diminish ourselves to the status of ornaments…decorations. Where’s the value in that?!

Be Renewed

Romans 12:2 And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.

To renew is to make something like new; to restore to the state of freshness or perfection; regenerate or to be reborn or converted.

The -ing of renewing shows us that this is an ongoing process. Renewing isn’t a one time deal. The only way for us to be transformed is for us to continue to daily restore and perfect our minds and make it something new. Change our minds, change our lives. We cannot do this outside the word of God and without the Holy Ghost dwelling in our hearts.

The Mind of Christ

Philippians 2:5 Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus:

Interestingly, I was talking to a friend recently and she made a common statement, “I started to go with my first mind.” Funny, huh?! How many minds do we have???

I know my friend meant she started to go with her first thought. Yet, I made the comment for us to be single-minded and to have the mind of Christ. If we LET the same mind of Christ be in us, which means this is something we allow and choose, we’d be transformed even the more. Hello perfection!!

We no longer have to ask one another, “What would Jesus do?” We’d already know what He’d do because we’d think and see things just like He does. Talk about walking in the Spirit and not fulfilling the lusts of the flesh! However, we cannot get there without hiding His Word in our hearts.

James 1:8 A double minded man is unstable in all his ways.

Grow Good Thoughts

What’s growing in your mind? Are you watering seeds of doubt, envy, self-worthlessness, pride, uncleanliness, fornication, strife, bitterness or hatred? The list can go on and on.

What you take the time to nurture eventually grows up strong. Do you really want to feed and nurture something that can destroy you?

I hope that your thoughts will be on things that are true, honest, just, pure, lovely, of good report, virtuous and praise worthy.

Philippians 4:8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

God Resolutions

I used to make New Year’s Resolutions, but now I make what I call God Resolutions—affirming determinations and decisions to remain bound to Jesus Christ and the purposes and promises He has for me. I found that I don’t need a new year to change or be better; all I need is Jesus and the mind to live holy. Continue to dedicate yourself to God like the day you did when you first fell in love with Him.

If any of these things sound familiar or repetitive, good. They are. There’s nothing wrong with reinforcement and calling these things to our remembrance.

Sometimes I slip into health coaching mode. For example, I know it’s good to have a definitive start time for whatever program or plan you want to ensue. But Jesus is not a program or plan. When it comes down to Christ, there’s no better time to chase after Him and pursue His will like today.

I know there are a lot of “feel good” humanistic teachings on the market. But, the only way you or I can live our best life is through Jesus Christ. Everything else is sinking sand.

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