For the love of tartan!! Face any rainy day in tartan style. This collection features Burberry and Victoria Beckham.
Never worry about staying modest when it comes to enjoying summer splashes and fun. I’ve searched for fashionable and modest swimwear. Sometimes I see modest, but style is void. Other times, I see style, but modesty is absent.
This modest swimwear/swim skirt by Leelach.com passes the style and modesty test! Yay!
How to wear a fanny pack really isn’t rocket science. You just pick one and fasten it around your waist!
While fanny packs ceased being donned by celebrities and fashion models for a season or five, avid travelers still treasured the fanny pack. For some, it never went out of style. It’s functional fashion.
Now the fashion industry has caught up with travelers and globe trotters, making it a-okay for trend watchers to wear a fanny pack. (Side note: you can wear a fanny pack when it goes “out of fashion” too.)
There are many styles of fanny packs to choose from. Have fun!
What does it mean to have natural affection? Many times, to understand the meaning of a word or phrase, we look at its opposite. The opposite of natural affection is without natural affection — unnatural.
Affection is a fondness, warmth, gentle feeling or physical expression of love.
The Bible tells us that in the last days, perilous times will come. There are things we notice in the unraveling of our families, communities and society that prove we are in the last days. One such thing is that people will be without natural affection. In these days, people have an unnatural way of showing love. Words and deeds don’t match. What should be gentle is brutal. What should be hot is cold.
Something that is natural exists in nature without being made or caused by humans. It is what it is — on its own. Some regard it as being innate. Natural affection is something that is God-given. Something that is unnatural goes against nature, thus it goes against the order of God.
- It’s natural for a mother to desire to nurture her child.
- It’s natural for a man to be protective of his family.
- It’s natural for friends to want to help another friend in need.
- It’s natural for a family member to want to see other family members do their best.
- It’s natural to have empathy for others — friends, families, neighbors and strangers.
In the Jungle
Many mothers in the animal kingdom will fight to the death to protect their young. They’ll stand against predators, whom they have a small to no chance of defeating, just to give their young the chance to live. Sadly, some of us do not give as much natural love as a beast in the field.
But when unnatural affection is addressed in 2 Timothy, it is not about beasts, but about man.
Piety, or kindness, should first be demonstrated and learned in the home. This foundation is being destroyed. If we cannot be kind in the home, how can we have natural affection towards anyone?
2 Timothy 3:1-5
This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come.
For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,
Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good,
Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God;
Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.
Many things lead to unnatural affection. Lust is at the root — unruly passions that direct hearts to appease the senses and flesh. Selfishness is connected to lust. Many people aim to satisfy self and place one’s needs and desires (lusts) over the well-being and development of others.
Other factors are lack of wisdom and pride. A prideful and selfish heart does not give natural love because it has not submitted to God and the order He established in nature. A heart that is not wise does foolish things, especially when it comes to pursuing means to fulfill lustful desires.
Quite simply, those without natural affection hurt others. Sometimes they do it blindly. Other times their eyes are wide open and they just don’t care.
What to Do?
- The Word of God says it best: “from such turn away.” In other words, stay away from these types of people. This is for our good and protection.
- Do a heart check and guard your heart. Be sure that you are one who lives a life of love filled with natural affection.
- If you are a young lady, submit yourself to be taught by aged or older women on the subject of love. It is the job and calling of aged women to teach young women to love their husbands and children. To have natural affection.
Anger is always looking for a place to rest—a place to call home. But you don’t have to allow it to claim your heart as its own.
We cannot control how other people talk and act. But we can control our own actions and reactions. The bible is a manual for righteous living; whether it’s about how to dress (modest apparel), or how to turn anger on its head. We can use God’s Word to direct our lives.
Words to Live By
I’m going to share three bible-based tips on how to deal with an angry person. These are not in-depth, but they are a starting point for conflict management—God’s way.
- Reply with a soft or gentle answer.
- Agree quickly with the person. The bible refers to the person you’re in disagreement with as your adversary.
- Don’t be friends with an angry person; don’t associate with people who are easily-angered.
A Soft Answer
A soft or gentle answer disarms the angry person. On a carnal level, it’s pretty hard to be soft and gentle towards someone who is yelling at you, name-calling or pushing buttons for a brawl. We want to yell back, sling out insults, and hurt the hurter. But this formula isn’t God’s method, but that of the flesh. It’s a formula for mess. Grievous or harsh words is the spoon in the pot. Keep stirring and you’ll get more anger out of the person.
Go to higher ground, instead. Walk in the Spirit and remember Jesus. Recall how He didn’t say a mumbling word as He was spat upon, hit and beaten. This means you’ll practice some self-control by being silent at first, giving yourself time to consider your reaction and its consequences.
Proverbs 15:1 A soft answer turns away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
The other person may think your meek demeanor is a sign of weakness, but you should know it is a mark of power. Why? Well, this formula for success came from God, so how can it be anything but powerful?! Also, it demonstrates you choose to not be controlled by your emotions by taking the time to think before you speak, craft a gentle word, and ultimately please God.
God wants us to settle matters before we show up before a judge, mediator or third-party with the other person. He doesn’t want things to go that far. More importantly, God is the righteous Judge. Don’t show up before God with a matter unresolved between you and your brother or sister. God doesn’t even want our gift at the altar until we go to the person we believe has something against us.
Matthew 5:25 Agree with your adversary quickly, while you are in the way with him; lest at any time the adversary deliver you to the judge, and the judge deliver you to the officer, and you be cast into prison.
Agreeing with your adversary quickly or settling a matter doesn’t mean you’re admitting the other person is right. It means you’re not wanting to allow anger to get a hold of you or them, and cause either one of you to sin. Many times we allow anger to cause us to sin. We don’t think rationally when we are angry. The sooner you deal with and fix the problem, the better. We shouldn’t give a root of bitterness the chance to spring up. People all over are hating one another, walking around as spiritual murderers because of a disagreement, misunderstanding, hurt or neglect that bubbled into anger.
You’ve given a soft answer and agreed with your adversary quickly. They’re still angry, and seem to wrap their identity in being the mad one. What next? Prayerfully think and take proper action.
Why put or keep yourself in a potentially dangerous position by staying in the presence of someone who is always angry? You don’t have to take abuse and be the verbal, emotional or physical punching bag for someone who chooses to remain unhappy. You do not know if or when that anger may become rage.
Proverbs 22:24 Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man you shall not go:
Furthermore, God doesn’t want us to learn the ways of angry people. He knows the power of mirroring, and how easily we may mirror another person’s bad behavior. If someone is angry all the time, the anger is a symptom of a deeper problem. Pray for them, and continue to show kindness and love. Understand the anger is probably masking hurt. Yet, do not make this person your familiar or intimate friend. The spirit of anger that envelops him/her may try to consume you too.
Remember, be wise as serpents and harmless as doves.
To grow means to develop, expand, increase or advance to maturity. As I sat in Bible study tonight, I thought about something my dad said. “The devil wants to kill us as soon as we are ready to give our life to Christ; as soon as we are born again, before we get strong in God and are built up.”
Babes in Christ
Satan comes to kill, steal and destroy, but he especially wants to destroy us when we are new in Christ — babes. Why? Because at this early stage, our strength is small and our discernment has not had time to become sharpened. We have not yet been rooted and grounded in the Word. We are easy targets.
If you know anything about babies, you know they are vulnerable. Even in the animal world, predators seek the weak, categorized as the very young, sick/injured or the very old. Satan is a predator, and his mission is to devour as many people as possible, which includes seeking out new believers.
We are very vulnerable as babes in Christ. We need to feast on the sincere milk of the word, so that we can grow (1 Peter 2:2). The stronger we become in God, and the more skillful we become with the Word, we are able to resist the devil and easily use our Sword against him: the Word of God.
It takes time to mature, both naturally and spiritually. If you are a babe in Christ, I lovingly encourage you to indulge in the Word. If you feel you don’t have a thirst or hunger for it, feast on it anyway, at the same time asking God to ignite your thirst and hunger.
If you have been in Christ for a while, you are not above being deceived and falling. You are on the enemy’s hit list too, and you need the Word. There comes a time when we can move beyond milk and feast on meat — the deeper things in the Word that babies can’t eat or understand because they’d choke on it.
2 Peter 3:18 But grow in grace, and in the knowledge of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. To him be glory both now and for ever. Amen.
All of us need to grow. Don’t be satisfied with where you are in God. Always desire to be closer to Him; to be more faithful; to be more like Jesus. A beautiful part about being in Christ is that He has everything we need to grow by — starting with grace.
Grow in the Knowledge of Jesus Christ
God also wants us to grow in the knowledge of Christ. Knowledge is awareness, familiarity, facts and information gained from experience with someone or something. There’s more to know about Jesus than what you discovered the first time you heard His name; or from when you were baptized; from when He last healed you; from last Sunday’s sermon; or the day He saved you from your sins and self.
We learn more about Christ as we study and meditate on His Word, pray, fast, spend quiet time with Him, and allow Him to lead us by the Holy Ghost. Only when we are led by the Spirit of God are we the sons (and daughters) of God (Romans 8:14).
I believe Ephesians 3:17-19 sums up growing in grace and in the knowledge of Jesus Christ perfectly.
17 That Christ may dwell in your hearts by faith; that ye, being rooted and grounded in love,18 May be able to comprehend with all saints what is the breadth, and length, and depth, and height; 19 And to know the love of Christ, which passeth knowledge, that ye might be filled with all the fulness of God.
You were born to stand out – to be different. In fact, God’s Word tells us to make a difference. In the literary world, we hear that a story or words jumped off the page. What does that mean? The words were highlighted in such a way as to immediately grab our attention and pull us into the story.
For something to jump off the page, it has to be distinct, richly creative and unique.
Here are a just a few ways God wants us to jump off the page for Him.
- Put God first and love Him with obedience by faith.
- Love others as ourselves.
- Cover a multitude of sins and faults with love. In other words, forgive.
- Put or make a difference between holy and unholy; clean and unclean with our lifestyle.
- Be a light to others.
- Consider others better than ourselves.
- Bear good fruits of righteousness.
Doing the above seven things will definitely set you apart from the world. You’ll literally jump off the page with your holy lifestyle. It’s sure to be a conversation starter. Where there’s a conversation, there’s opportunity to convince stray hearts to be reconciled to Christ.
Matthew 5:16 Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.
What are you waiting for, peculiar people? Jump off the page!
As we begin to settle into fall, we welcome back the beanie! I know some of us have been wearing beanies throughout the summer (I’m not calling out any names. You know who you are). *Wink*
Beanies are a great accessory. They’re not too casual, like a baseball cap. They’re not too dressy, like a traditional church, or as I call it, a “sister” hat. Beanies are definitely fall’s bad hair day fix, making them a fashion staple.
There are many styles to choose from—slouchy and pom to name a few. I don’t know about you, but I’m considering adding embellishments to some basic beanies to create a just-for-me look. Prices vary, from super cheap beauty supply store finds to high-end wool beanies.
Say it with me, “Welcome back, beanie!”