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Naturally Professional & Changing Cultural Symbols

I spent this evening as a panelist with a very knowledgeable and fine group. Tonight’s event was hosted by the University of Memphis’ National Association of Black Journalists. We discussed being “naturally professional” — the stereotypes of natural hair in the corporate world.

Are there stereotypes associated with natural hair in the professional work environment? Yes. Some people view natural hair as untidy, or that it reflects rebellion and personality/attitude issues.

 

There was much to discuss and learn. From a sociological and cultural perspective, hair is symbolic. It carries a meaning, whether you like the meaning or not. Can we redefine symbols and change their meanings? Certainly. However, most people are resistant to change, especially when it comes to changing their minds, which rests on their values, beliefs, and ideas.

Beauty Culture

Realistically speaking, it is 2013 and we must confront the issue of what messages our chosen hairstyles and natural textures send to society. Most importantly, we must confront what those messages mean to us on an individual basis. Change happens one person at a time. Only you can choose to change your own mind, and how you see yourself and society. This includes ideas about beauty.

Isn’t that the real issue with conversations about hair ? Ideas about beauty? These are values or standards imposed upon us that we choose to internalize or not. Our society has sold to us its standard of beauty. As a culture, we bought it. That price tag was pretty hefty.

The perspective that I shared tonight was that whether you are natural, have relaxed hair, wear a wig, weave, or whatever; at the end of the day you must love you. If you can only love yourself based on the texture or style of your hair, we need to fix something. When you peel back all the layers, all the superficial stuff, do you love who you are? Do you accept yourself?

I honestly hate “natural” hair being solely applied to people of color, as though other races don’t have natural hair. I also hate the term “ethnic” hair, hair care, and hair styles being applied to people of color. We are not the only ones who have an ethnicity. Everyone has an ethnicity. A shared culture or nationality equals ethnicity.

The Movement

In keeping with the theme, there are many reasons why a person joins the “natural hair movement”. Whatever the reason, I sincerely hope it is a personal choice to open your perspective and just be who you are, and not a cover-up for the symptom of self-esteem issues, whose root has not been dealt with. Yes, someone with natural hair, just like someone with relaxed hair, can STILL have self-esteem issues that are not connected to hair, but to something much deeper.

However, if your personal choice to wear your hair natural boosts your confidence and feelings of self-worth — good for you! Still, be sure that you are you, not matter what you have or what you look like. True beauty radiates from a pure heart.

“Just Say No” to Self-Righteousness

I caution natural ladies to not think of themselves in a self-righteous manner, as though embracing natural hair means you love yourself and God more than a woman who chooses to wear relaxed tresses. Having natural hair does not mean you will avoid damage, split ends, and the like.

I equally caution ladies with relaxed hair to not think of themselves in a self-righteous manner, as though having relaxed hair makes them more polished and sophisticated. Straight hair is not more beautiful than other textures.

The Big Question(s)

Are we truly “not” our hair? We say that: I am not my hair. But do we mean it? Is this conversation just an extension of racism and colorism within our own culture and society in general?

The question of the evening was: Is natural hair professional? Yes. Just like any type and texture of hair, no matter what color you are, your hair is expected to be groomed, especially in the corporate world. If it’s groomed, it’s professional: kinky, curly, wavy, straight, and everything in between. The issue is that mainstream society has not caught on to this realization that your hair texture is not a reflection of your skills, efficiency, intellect and productivity. Through promotion, education and creativity, we can plant this thought: All hair textures —regardless of race and ethnicity— are beautiful.

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What is Plus Size?

At Target, plus size is 14
Target Sizing Chart for Plus Size (Photo credit: dharder9475)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Inquiring minds would like to know, “What exactly is plus size?” Perhaps one of the most confusing things about plus size is where it begins. What size is the entry point in defining plus size?

Depending on where you shop, plus size may start at size 12, 14 or 16. According to fashion industry standards, plus size are sizes 12-24 — making 12 the size where plus size begins. As you can imagine, what fashion industry, respective stores and women around the globe say is the entry point for plus size may differ considerably.

Wait…There’s More

You’ll typically see a ‘W’ or an ‘X’ before or after the size on plus size clothing. The ‘W’  means women’s size. You’ll see it after a size, such as 12W,  or before an S, M, L or XL — such as WS. The ‘X’ means extra. You may see it as something like 3X versus size 3 for juniors.

Some stores carry plus sizes from 12W-44W.  This also depends on where you shop. For example, Ashley Stewart only goes up to size 26. Igigi goes up to size 32. Shabby Apple’s plus sizes include 14/16, L and XL. They also use women’s sizes in WS and WM, which are more generous in bust, waist and hip measurements than XL.

There are two other categories beyond plus size. Super sizes are 4X-6X. Extended sizes are 7X and up.

Let’s Recap

Plus size includes sizes:

  • 12-44 or 12W-44W
  • L, XL, XXL, etc.
  • 1X-3X (there are also super and extended sizes)
  • WS, WM, WL, WXL (women’s sizes in small, medium, large and extra large)

Plus Size Shopping

The following stores either have a plus size department or exclusively carry plus size fashion. Of course there are more than the few listed below — online and in town. Explore your options with respect to style, budget and needs.

Happy Shopping!

Ashley Stewart Plus Size Women’s Clothing

Kohl’s Women’s Plus Size

Macy’s Plus Size Clothing

Dillard’s Plus Size Clothing & Apparel

Dot’s Plus Size

Women’s Dresses from Shabby Apple

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Plus size dresses

Body Image & Eating Disorders: Too Fat, Too Skinny

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It is sad to see young girls obsessing over their weight, whether they think they are too fat or too skinny. When I was a young girl, I had a serious issue with people calling me all kinds of names for being thin. As a result, I went in the opposite direction and became obsessed with gaining weight (which was a fail). At a young age, I made myself very sick force-feeding myself. My mother caught me, and she snapped me right back into reality. It was the fear I saw in her eyes that made me promise to never repeat what I had done. She told me I could kill myself doing what I did. I didn’t want to die. I just wanted to gain weight. Remembering her fear-stricken face, I never ate like that again trying to pack on the pounds.

The Power of Words

Many people don’t understand the power of their words. We can kill or give life with what we say. For the longest, it was so hard for me to accept my thinness, among other things. By the grace of God, I’m okay with it today—thinness and all. This is how God made me. When He made me, He saw that His design was beyond good. God’s design of me was, and is, very good. The same goes for you.

Boy, do I wish I could go back in time and take back all the self-esteem and opportunities I lost because I was wrapped up in what other people thought about how I looked.

The devil is a time snatcher. He will have you focusing on all the wrong things for far too long. Wasted time, and for what?

Love Yourself

It’s a dream of mine to tell and convince every girl I can—whether she’s still a girl or now a woman—to love herself, and not waste time wishing she looked like this or like that. To accept her beauty and identity in Jesus Christ. Who dictates these beauty standards, anyhow? Too fat, too skinny. Hair too curly, too straight. Skin too black, skin too pale.

As for me, the ones who were the most damaging to my perceptions of self and body image were not other children. Yes, they teased and inflicted their degree of harm. But it was the adults—mainly “church” folk—who would cut me down after service, asking me if I needed a “get fat diet,” and who joked if my sisters were eating all the food up from me. I was in elementary school and junior high. How big did they expect me to be?

I found myself rushing to get out to the car after service, hoping to avoid “fellowshipping,” which typically resulted in my feelings getting hurt. The “get fat diet” seed came from a woman at church. She planted it, and I didn’t even know it. Once, my mother was right there, and snatched me away, telling the woman, “She doesn’t need any kind of diet. She’s fine like she is.” Thanks, Mommy.

Deliverance

My mother always told me there was nothing wrong with me being thin. That I would gain some weight over the course of my adult years. But I didn’t hear her because so many other people were telling me something different. She went above and beyond trying to build up what the enemy, through people, had torn down in her baby.

And then one day…Jesus happened. Thank God for deliverance! God will teach you how to accept and love yourself again. Even after man turns you against yourself and causes you to despise how God created you.

Jessica, the young girl in this video, said something I hope registers with everyone: “Be happy in your own skin, because everyone is different and everyone’s beautiful in their own way.”

 

 

 

 

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Infographic: Teen ‘Back to School’ Cosmetic Surgery Trend

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Some teens are doing whatever it takes to get approval from their peers and friends about their looks. Their parents are helping with this ‘pursuit of perfection’ with the price of cosmetic surgery. How far is to far—especially when bullying is part of the equation?

I understand the mind and feelings of teens with acne and acne scarring, because I was once there. As an adult, I ventured off to plastic surgeons, dermatologists and aestheticians—paying heavy prices to obtain perfect skin. Oh yeah, my skin still isn’t perfect! I can’t tell you all the products I’ve ordered over the years. What a waste. But I do know the weight and toll ‘imperfect’ skin plays on the hearts and minds of teens and adults—especially females. The wicked world of negative self-image!

Does all the cosmetic surgery (I’ve never had any done, btw…) actually heal hearts and minds, and solve self-image and bullying problems? Weigh in on it. Check out this infographic and tell us what you think.

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cosmetic surgery the new back to school trend
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Runway Model Shunned for Weight Gain; Discovers No Price on Beauty

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Former runway model, Jennifer Strickland, was ousted by Armani for gaining four pounds, which led to her being shunned from the industry. It was a blessing in disguise. Jennifer’s ordeal brought her to Jesus and she discovered, “You can’t put a price on beauty; you can’t sell your face; you can’t sell beauty.”

Shaping a Healthy Body Image

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Body Image LoveDo you have a healthy body image? When you look in the mirror, are you happy with the reflection? A healthy body image is one that is positive. Many girls have negative body images—they don’t like what they see.

Causes of a Negative Body Image

Did you know our family members and friends can pressure us to adopt an unhealthy body image? Teasing and weight gain can also negatively affect us. However, most of our pressure comes from the media.

Girls, young and old, are pressured to look like what TV, the Internet, magazines and billboards show us. But none of those “looks” are realistic. In America, we’re taught to look like Barbie®, be as tall and thin as super models and stay young forever. There’s so much wrong with these teachings. Continue reading

Understanding Body Shapes

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Body Shapes

 

 

 

 

 

What is a body shape?

A body shape consists of the contours and proportions of your body, including the waistline.  Bone structure, muscles and fat all play a part.

There are four basic/traditional shapes used to categorize the shape of a woman’s body: apple, banana, hourglass and pear.

The shapes of women’s bodies can vary beyond the four basic shapes. With this in mind, we’ll focus on six possible body shapes, instead of four. Continue reading

Israeli Law Bans Super Thin Models in Ads

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The Israeli fashion industry is up for a challenge now that Israel has passed a law banning super thin models in ads.

Advertisements featuring underweight models influence young girls to emulate the unhealthy look they see. The measure was taken to “protect” young girls who may feel pressure to do extreme diets, or become anorexic or bulimic to look like super models. Continue reading