Category: Love & Relationships

Actions Speak Louder Than Words

“If you love me, you will show me.” How many times have you heard or said this? I have an expression: Love has legs and it walks.

Is your love sitting down? Are you holding back? Is your love resting on words and not on actions and truth?

1 John 3:18 My little children, let us not love in word, neither in tongue; but in deed and in truth.

Choose to Prove Your Love

Love is an action and a choice. What we do to show someone we love them says more than the words that come out of our mouths. If our actions and words do not line up, it’s time to do a heart check. Perhaps there’s some lingering unforgiveness, insecurities, apathy, or lack of humility.

Did you know that even Jesus wants us to prove our love to Him? It’s not good enough for us to simply say we love the Lord; we must show we love Him. This is done through obeying His Word.

John 14:15 If ye love me, keep my commandments.

Even in our relationships with family and friends, our actions carry more weight than what we say. Our actions offer credibility. We have something a little more concrete at our disposal. Actions matter more in defining a person’s character and establishing his/her reputation.

Proverbs 20:11 Even a child is known by his doings, whether his work be pure, and whether it be right.

There is a connection between what we say and what we do. Our thoughts and intentions influence our words. Our words influence our actions. But somewhere on the journey between words and actions, we have a choice to block what we say from becoming deeds or not—positive or negative.

Bravo when we block those things that are negative and unfruitful. But let’s allow positive, life-giving words to manifest into actions that the whole world can see.

Truth Matters

Wait! There’s more. There’s the matter of truth. Yes, people can fake it and go through empty rituals, or just go through the motions. In whatever you do to SHOW or PROVE your love, let it be true. If it isn’t, rest assured others will eventually be able to tell. When it comes to God, nothing is hidden from Him. He knows if we’re being real or not. So, please…no masks. Authenticity to the fullest.

How to Stay in God’s Love

John 15:10 If ye keep my commandments, ye shall abide in my love; even as I have kept my Father’s commandments, and abide in his love.

As long as we continue to obey the Lord, we remain in His love. Isn’t that a beautiful thought?

Father’s Day Must Have: Godly Dads

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Happy Father’s Day to all the dads around the globe, especially to my own father. There’s another level to being a dad, and that’s being a godly one. My father is a godly dad.

If only godly dads were on the list of Father’s Day Must Have’s. Continue reading →

Women on the Prowl

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I haven’t posted any personal or spiritual growth posts in a while. With all that’s going on, I believe a post to the single ladies is in order; especially for the ones who seem to be desperately seeking a mate. Continue reading →

Happy Mother’s Day

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Happy Mother's Day

I absolutely love my mother, and am a self-proclaimed “mama’s girl.” I am so blessed to have strong, godly women in my life—starting with my own mom.

No cards, boxes of chocolates or flowers can compensate for all the hard work mothers do, or for all the love they give. I’m not just talking about natural mothers, either.

Motherhood isn’t just about whether you’ve given birth. Many people can fulfill the role of a mother when they give the love and attention mothers give. Motherhood is about nurturing, admonishing, guiding, loving, comforting, caring and gentleness.

Isaiah 66:13 As a mother comforts her child, so will I comfort you; and you will be comforted over Jerusalem.”

1 Thess. 2:7 but we were gentle among you, like a mother caring for her little children. (NIV)

Mother’s Day is a great time to reconcile mother-child relationships, to forgive past hurts, and move forward in the newness of life.

Happy Mother’s Day to all the mothers, godmothers, grandmothers, sisters, fabulous aunties, and women who are “like a mother” in our lives.

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Carrying Baggage

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Real talk, Model Me Girls. I have carried my share of baggage—the kind that develops Carrying Baggagefrom past relationships, hurt, bad perceptions and thoughts. Plain and simple, emotional baggage gets in the way. It’s never fair to old or new people in your life. It is not fair to you and your relationship with God.

A couple of years ago, I don’t think I even noticed just how much baggage I was carrying till God showed it to me in a dream. Here goes… Continue reading →

Let’s Be Friends or ‘Fwends’

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My god-nephew is one of the friendliest people I know. It’s not attributed to him being a Let's Be Friendskid—it’s his personality. He’s just like that. I guess he gets it from his mother. When he was little (during his super duper adorable days), he’d ask just about anybody a very important question:
“Do you wanna be my fwend?”

Now that he’s older and his vocabulary and pronunciation have improved, he’s exchanged ‘fwend’ for friend. But the plea is still the same: Let’s be friends.

This god-nephew of mine loves people, and people love him. Everyone who knows him, knows he is friendly and a great helper.

In his innoncent plight to collect many friends, I am reminded that friends—the real kind—are not counted for mulititude, but by the kind and quality of love they give.

The Bible says, “A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.” (KJV) Continue reading →

Relationship 101: Communication Skills vs. Relationship Skills

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Human beings are social by design. It has nothing to do with evolution; but everything to do with how God created us.

Some of us have mastered the art of communication by modeling the behavior of others; exposure to or immersion into highly social families, situations and environments; and lastly, by formal education.

We hear phrases like, “You’re just like your mother or father.” Some of these “just likes,” which I like to call them, are innate. Others are learned and mirrored.

This can be the same with communication skills. Some of us have a natural gift and others have to be trained more diligently. Continue reading →