I haven’t posted any personal or spiritual growth posts in a while. With all that’s going on, I believe a post to the single ladies is in order; especially for the ones who seem to be desperately seeking a mate.
Proverbs 18:22 Whosoever finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor of the LORD.
As a single, never been married before lady, I understand God has perfect timing and He intends for us to obey His Word. So, if I could give a word of advice to other single ladies: STOP looking for a man and START looking to be made whole. That man will come if it’s God’s will. If it is, he’ll come when God sends him to find you.
On the Prowl
God didn’t tell you or me to be on the prowl for men. This is how many of us get ourselves into trouble—prowling.
Prowl: to roam, rove or wander about in search of a prey; to steal; to secretly or underhandedly search
Real women of God do not “catch a man” —as movies and magazines have taught us. It is the strange woman or harlot who catches men. Godly women are found because we are treasures.
(10) And, behold, there met him a woman with the attire of a harlot, and subtle of heart. (11) (She is loud and stubborn; her feet abide not in her house: (12) Now is she outside, now in the streets, and lies in wait at every corner.) (13) So she caught him, and kissed him, and with an impudent face said unto him, (14) I have peace offerings with me; this day have I paid my vows. (15) Therefore came I forth to meet you, diligently to seek your face, and I have found you.
Characteristics of the Strange Woman
- The strange woman wears the attire of a harlot.
- She has a subtle heart, which is cunning, sly and beguiling. Remember who else beguiles and is subtle? Satan.
- The strange woman is a loud, stubborn busybody (“her feet abide not in her house”).
- She is a predator and positions herself in dress and location to catch men.
- She has an impudent face. An impudent face implies she lacks modesty, and is cocky, sassy and bold-faced.
- She uses mock hospitality, religious pretense and flattery to invite men to her home.
The enemy has been successfully tricking women into playing the role of the strange woman—the harlot. We’ve been trying to catch a man, when God says, “Don’t. This is what the strange woman does.”
Meek and Quiet Spirit or Heart of a Predator?
A meek and quiet spirit is the adornment of chaste women who are, unlike the strange woman, not loud, proud, stubborn or beguiling. Only a woman whose heart is ignited with pride prowls for men. That prideful and discontented heart says: “God, you are taking too long. I can get a man myself. I am impatient and will search for who I think is best for me.”
Do you now see why a woman with a meek and quiet spirit is of great price in the sight of God (1 Peter 3:4)? I sure hope you do after contrasting it with the characteristics of the strange woman. And by the way, there is nothing weak about being meek.
Women on the prowl are exactly what Proverbs 7:10-15 describes. They’re out and about, scouting, because you can’t find a man sitting at home. She’s hitting the streets, literally. I am in no way saying go Rapunzel and stay locked up in the house. Please don’t! What I am saying is to ask yourself, “Am I positioning myself to be found by staying in the center of God’s will or am I on the prowl focusing on my own will?” There’s a big difference.
God’s Word tells us woman was created for man; not the other way around (1 Corin. 11:9).
If only we spent more time seeking God with diligence so we could live, maybe we’d have clearer directions about where God wants us and what He has for us.
Furthermore, if we continually focus on obtaining earthly things we don’t have, we fail to appreciate what we do have. Gratitude is a condition of the heart and mind.
Don’t be one of the women on the prowl. Be a treasure and content with where you are today, and with being found. You’re worth it.
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