When it comes to trust, there’s a huge difference between trusting someone and trusting IN someone.
Psalm 118:8 It is better to trust in the Lord than to put confidence in man.
On the other hand, it’s hard to trust others if you do not trust God or yourself. We know there are degrees of trust, too. The more someone proves to be accountable and consistent, the more likely we are to trust that person. So s/he proves him or herself over time. There’s also the pattern of distrust. This occurs when a person is let down or trust is often broken. When we don’t trust someone, it’s because we find them unreliable or dishonorable.
Welcome to the (American) Culture of Distrust.
Our levels of trust also change depending on context. We may trust someone who has access to our medical records in a healthcare setting more than someone we meet while traveling away from home, or the sales associate who swipes our credit or debit card.
Learning to Trust
Here at Model Me Girl, we talk about taming your self-convo, particularly the negative ones.
Are you verbally abusive to yourself? Do you lie to yourself? Feel like you let yourself down all the time? In many cases, how you treat and talk to yourself is training ground for how you treat and talk to others. This influences your ability to trust. But this lesson doesn’t start here. We learn how to regard ourselves and others by the familial and social teachers in our lives.
You can learn and adopt a new way of thinking, doing and being. I once thought the first step in learning to trust was learning to trust myself. I no longer think that. I believe the first step in learning to trust is to trust God—just take Him at His word. It’s God who teaches me how to operate in every type of relationship, even how I relate to myself.
The social phenomenon we should be most concerned with is not if we trust others, but if we trust in Christ. This is who I speak of when I say God. I believe this AP-GfK study reveals what the Word of God said would be in the last days:
2 Timothy 3:1-5 This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come.(2)For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,(3)Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, (4) Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; (5) Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.
Trucebreakers, false accusers and traitors are never trustworthy UNLESS they are redeemed and have recovered from their ways. What we tend to do is punish other people for one bad relationship, experience or hearsay. Should we be naive and blindly trust any and everybody? No. But being that these days present us with more trucebreakers, false accusers, traitors and prideful people, it makes sense that trust has declined. Morality and accountability have declined.
When we walk around our daily lives being suspicious of everyone or when we face the type of people mentioned in 2 Timothy 3, our chances of being rude increase. May God give us more patience and self-control! This level of suspicion isn’t healthy for the body and mind.
What we need are not more social networks, but connections. The real high-quality kind. Face-to-face. Real connections build trust—with regard to God, other people and yourself—when we move beyond the superficial. If and when our relationships are right with God, we will have right relationships with others. This is righteousness. This kind of righteousness is a fruit of the Holy Spirit. It cannot be bought or taught from a self-help book, conference or class. It is a gift from that comes from forgiveness and reconciliation.
James 3:18 And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace of them that make peace.
We are witnessing and living in the culture of distrust. Let’s not allow this culture to influence us to lose our trust in God or to treat others with disrespect and discourtesy.